A Simple Way to Destroy Limiting Beliefs
As you might have noticed, I post less frequently here now, but every time I do it’s generally something of value to people and not as random stuff.
Today, it’s limiting beliefs and I’m going to share a simple technique with you to destroy them in just a few minutes. It might not be so effective if it’s a really strong one that you’ve had since you were 5, but in general it’s pretty effective.
I share more techniques to blast through the limiting beliefs in my free ebook, Manifesting 101.
So basically, you’re going to first identify what the limiting belief is, obviously. And then, come up with statements about it, that in the end is going to make the limiting belief so ridiculous you’ll wonder how you could ever believe such a thing.
First, identifying it. This might be something you already know about, if so just move on to step 2. Or, you’re not aware of it and just know that you do have limiting beliefs, just don’t know which.
So in that case, think of something in you’re life that’s bothering you, often something you just CAN’T seem to do… well there you go :)
Say you want to get more social and make new friends, but you’re not comfortable with just walking up to someone you might be interested in having as a friend.
This is extremely common and in pick-up artist communities it’s known as Approach Anxiety, which is exactly what it is.
Basically you just feel nervous and there’s just SOMETHING that prevents you from even daring to go near this person, even though deep inside you know you really want to.
So how could this be a limiting belief?
The limiting belief could be something like “Every time I walk up to someone I want to talk to, I get rejected”.
See how it’s a BELIEF. A lot of people actually BELIEVE that every time they start talking to someone they get rejected. It’s like a statement of a FACT.
So that’s how limiting beliefs work, OK?
So here’s how you erase it.
You do so with counter statements. You grill yourself basically… like, “could this really be true?” -type of statements.
So for a moment pretend you’re someone else and ask yourself these questions.
For example:
“Do you honestly believe that every person like you, that has ever walked up to someone - have gotten rejected?”
“Do you really KNOW that every person will reject you if you start talking?”
Most of the time it’s easiest to come up with “every person” type statements, like
“Is it true, that every person who has ever approached someone, has gotten turned down?”
You see?
When you’ve “talked to yourself” with these questions for a while - the limiting belief in question will sound completely ridiculous.
Enjoy it, use it. It works.
Linus
If you’re really into limiting beliefs and struggle severely with them, my highest recommendation goes out to Aine Belton’s Belief Buster Kit. I’ve heard so many great things about it. Check it out.
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Questions are such a powerful tool for creating doubt about a limiting belief. Thanks for the practical application.
Another effective way to break a limiting belief system is to choose an area in your life where you know you can take control. No matter who we are, there is always some area in our life where we feel a level of competence. Set a reachable goal in that direction and then take action. When you experience success, set another reachable goal in that same direction and follow through with more action. Continue his pattern until you become comfortable with your success.
Now you have created a positive reinforcement loop. Choose another area in your life where you have some level of competence and repeat the process. As your confidence grows allow yourself to identify with your own successes. View your self as a successful person and attach feelings of joy and achievement to your experiences.
If you have people that care about you, explain to them your challenge and ask them to provide positive feedback every time you succeed in producing an intended result. Now you will have both external and an internal positive reinforcement.
Hey thanks for your input. It’s appreciated :)
Linus
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